So, I'm totally convinced both of my boys are Bi-Polar. Without a doubt, Dean is- they don't diagnose children with bi-polar because all the signs and symptoms are based on adult symptoms and they really don't have any sure-fire diagnoses for children...so they label it a 'mood disorder' until they become an adult, and then they are willing to provide the label of bi-polar. Dean went through exstensive testing over a year ago and was diagnosed with a mood disorder. Ya think?! Lately, his explosive behavior has encouraged me to read more about bi-polar in children and the accuracy of the symptoms and behaviors amaze me! He goes ballistic over everything! His complete unpredictibility makes life very challenging. I got to thinking, Ellis probably needs to be re-evaluated as well. The House is getting nowhere with him. (We call the group home he lives in the 'House'.) He has been regressing for a long time now. He's only on medication to help his ADHD and nothing else. Of course they aren't getting anywhere with him! And this stuff runs in families.
On a lighter note....I'm doing so well on Atkins this time around. I'm trying to follow it the way I did the first time...when I was actually successful! I realized that the reason for my repeated failed attempts over the last 5 years is because I let myself cheat, which Dr. Atkins has maintained is 'the kiss of death' for this way of eating. It's true! I cannot cheat, not even a bite or I WILL fail. Failure is not an option!!! Now, if I could just muster up enough energy to start excersizing! I suffer from 'The Atkins Flu', which is a result of your body de-toxing, and also the symptoms of your body switching from 'glucose burning' to 'fat burning'. I tend to feel those symptoms for quite some time, especially in my legs, which makes them feel like I can barely get them moving. Excersize is not an appealing thought ever, but especially in the beginning, so hopefully it will pass soon and I can get my rear in gear! Brian has begun Atkins again too! He has amazing will power when he does it, and good discipline when it comes to excersizing. 3 pounds down.....
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so why did god give you bipolar children
ReplyDeletewas it to challenge you?
Hi Dais, maybe not necessarily to challenge me...But it was obviously in his good and perfect plan. I'm not privy to all the answers yet, but I do believe God provides us ample opportunity to practice becoming more like Jesus every day. And there is no doubt that trying situations and my reactions to them show the true ugliness of my heart sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI think God gives you what he knows you can handle . . . Danette, in the Colley family there is a generous helping of plain old depressive tendencies. That placed on top of teenaged years, well--those are just the worst years anyway for emotional rollercoasters--all the hormones battling each other.
ReplyDeleteWhen mine was 14 he was such an ass--the summer before freshman year. I thought, where is my nice boy--??? Everyone who had been through that assured me freshman year age for boys was the "worst." Maybe--but a few months into that whole ordeal--he was diagnosed with Type 1 (insulin dependent diabetes). That didn't happen overnight--his body was battling that in thos months before.
I can never make a quick point!! I just want to share that I did teach myself a different way to respond to my teen when he got to that "teen aged angst" age. It wasn't easy to stifle my motherish tendency to want "xyz" from my kid--I did a lot of "inner talking" to myself and came to the conclusion that what I had been thinking was WRONG. Turns out my kid NEEDED me as MUCH as he did as a little baby/child--only he needed me in a very different way . . . and I think that is part of our personal growing in this phase of our adult lives.
I totally agree. It's hard to keep that in mind in the middle of the tornado! ;) My boys come from a family with many mental health issues, so who knows what could be lurking around the corner. We'll get through it together.
ReplyDeleteDanette,
ReplyDeleteWhen Brian worked at Wilbur, we used to talk and compare stories about the boys. Both mine have been diagnosed with the Adhd. My prayers are with all of you.. I have a hard enough time with the ADHD, Bi-polar on top.... aghh!!! I agree God only gives us what we can handle but I know I have days wandering "What the heck he was thinking?".. Hang in there - you two have done wanders and where would the boys be with out you.. As for the tornado's, we as parents are only human.. and sometimes it's hard to remember that their problems are what's causing their off the wall behavior... Don't beat yourself up, you both are Godsend!!